Am I Doing This Right?

Am I doing this right? Am I enough? Is this how other moms are doing things? These are questions I ask myself almost daily and some days it nearly drives me to tears. Some days it is hard to be Mom and I find myself wondering if others feel the same way I do and talking with other Moms I find that a lot of us feel very similar and ask ourselves some of the same crazy questions!

I broke down to my husband the other night; it was a long day at work, I’m 8 months pregnant and I still had to come home and be Mom/wife and it was overwhelming. I cried to him and told him I felt like I was failing for feeling like this and that our children deserved more from me. I told him that I should be able to do all of this like every other Mom out there and that I didn’t understand why all my friends on Facebook and Instagram seemed like it was so easy to have multiple kids and they never seemed tired or stressed or freaked out with life in general. Do you want to know what he said to me?? He looked me in the eye and told me that I was crazy. Yes, he told me I was crazy (which made me cry more, dang hormones). He went on to say I was crazy because all of the things I was stressed, worried, and crying about were all things that I actually do on a daily basis and that I was doing a great job. He told me to stop comparing myself to people on Facebook, Instagram and the internet where everything seems perfect because in reality no one is “perfect” and everyone struggles and has bad days. That’s when it hit me…. Trying to make my life like the perfect photos on the internet is what was wrong with me. I realized that how I am doing things is how my family needs them done. What works for me may not work for another Mom and her kids. Once I realized this 80% of my daily stress disappeared!

The internet shames moms for EVERYTHING we do or don’t do now days and it is flat out ridiculous. We need to stand together and support each other because let’s be honest being a Mom is hard and kind of sucks monkey butt sometimes.

Don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t clean the house spotless or if the kiddos stayed in jammies all day. As long as you and your family are alive and happy that is all that matters!